Rebuttal to Jezebel Article about Dating Comedians.
*Originally posted January 19, 2013
Jezebel.com posted an article called “Here’s to the LOLs: The Perils of Dating and Dumping Comedians.” The article got my goat so to speak and I sent this rebuttal to the editor which they did not post. So here it is below for you to read. Enjoy, discuss, and have a lovely day.
“The Perils of Dating and Dumping Comedians”, Hey I thought, I’m comedian! People date me! What’s that like? But upon reading the article I found it perpetuating gender stereo types and taking one experience and presenting as a universal truth and as a woman and a comedian I respectfully disagree. First off, the article is about dating comedians but there is not one mention of what it’s like to date a female comedian. Are we too small in number for out experiences to count or is it because we’re undatable?
Comedy is still a male dominated profession, I would not dispute that, but to say that “girls are treated as second-class citizens in comedy” is a gross generalization. I have never, after performing all over the world, ever felt like any of my colleagues treated me like a second class citizen. Occasionally and audience member has come up to me and said “You’re really funny, and I don’t usually don’t think women are funny.” And yes there still are men in the business who hold that archaic attitude. But among among my peers who are all trying hard to make it, they have never NEVER treated me like a second class citizen.
I’m seeing more gender stereotypes in the article “Women are treated like second class citizens”, “watching some dude’s ball jokes totally bombing”. Not all men talk about their balls. That generalization is as annoying as saying all female comedians talk about there periods. (Personally, I only talk about balls.)
“In the last few years some holes have been punched in the male-dominated comedy world and women have joined the critical conversation” Yeah we have, and we did when when Glida Radner won the Emmy in 1978 for her work on SNL, or when Joan Rivers guest-hosted the Tonight Show in the 1980s, or when Roseanne Barr starred in her own sitcom that lasted nine seasons, or when Lucille Ball produced her own sit-com and started her own production company with her husband called “Desilu Productions” in the 1950’s. So yeah we have been punching holes in the comedy world in the past few years; in fact we’ve been punching holes for a while now.
The one place I do find the voice of female comedy lacking is this article right here. Last night I had a show (actually at the Knitting Factory as well) and got up as a new young comedian tried out a new set and in the audience sat the man I’m dating. Now I don’t know if he’s tired of watching me do the same jokes about my hair or my ex boyfriends, and I don’t know if he’s tired of “awkwardly sipping a Stella Artois at a house party full of UCB people” and neither do you, Anna, because you didn’t bother to ask.
Yes we drag our dates to show after show because that’s our job, what’s entertainment for you is us trying to crack open the door a little more and make it in comedy. I know a lot comedians, male and female, and after actually dating a one myself; I find the majority to be good people. Sometimes we fuck up, sometimes we’re self involved; I mean look at what we do. How could we not be? But it looks like you friends didn’t fall into the “perils of dating comedians” but the perils ofdating douche bags, and I’ve met douche bags who are comedians, business executives, and bike messengers. They’re everywhere Anna. The only place they might not be is at a comedy club with with three drink minimum because comedy clubs don’t have a three drink minimum. It’s a two drink minimum.